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IUD Strings

Hello, I'm new here but I think this is a great community. So I'm getting the copper IUD on Thursday and I'm really concerned about my boyfriend being able to feel the strings. Unfortunately (or fortunately) he is very well endowed, very sensitive and my cervix sits low (I guess that's the right wording) Anyway how common is this and is it really something to be worried about. I'm getting the IUD to enhance our sex life so there are no worries, no condoms, etc and we can both just enjoy ourselves but him feeling the strings might be a big issue. Thanks for any feedback.

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nathskywalker
Mar. 13th, 2017 06:21 pm (UTC)
I've had my copper IUD for about three years now. In the very beginning, I had problems with the strings. My then-bf felt the strings and it was very unpleasant, so when I went in for a check-up, I asked my OB/GYN what we could do about it and she trimmed my strings. I've never had a problem again and I've had several partners since. Nobody has ever been able to feel anything. I was also told that the strings soften over time and that that alone might have fixed the pokey strings matter but I didn't want to risk that because it was putting a major strain on our relationship as it was (he was against me getting an IUD in the first place and saw that as confirmation that it had been a terrible decision). But go in with an open mind, try and see if it pokes him before asking to get them trimmed short, and see what happens. Good luck!
grlskate
Mar. 13th, 2017 06:49 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I'm going to talk to my doctor about the best length when I go in. My boyfriend is also not sure about it so that also makes me extra uneasy.
ejlapin
Mar. 13th, 2017 07:15 pm (UTC)
My doctor said not to tell my bf because "if they don't know, they don't notice" but I'm bad at secrets so I couldn't help asking if he felt them and he said he did, but then also said it didn't feel "bad" and he wasn't "sure it was them." And mine are long by the feel of it.

I wouldn't worry about the strings. I would do what you feel comfortable with for your body because that's what's most important. I'm thrilled about my choice just over one month in despite a heavier period at first (nothing horrifying or unmanageable at all).

The peace of mind of being hormone free with reliable protection is awesome. Good luck!
snarky_24
Mar. 13th, 2017 07:35 pm (UTC)
In my partner's words "It's a small price to pay [for reliable birth control and sex without condoms]."

Basically, yes, my partner can feel them at times (he is also well endowed, and my cervix is low), but 99.5% of the time this isn't an issue. Overall, it's far superior to sex with condoms (for us anyway). He did have a partner with an IUD before me, so I can't speak to whether it took time for him to get used to the sensation.

My first IUD's strings were left long, and over 4 years there were a handful of times when the combination of angle and circumstances meant that he felt a small poke from the end of the strings. No big deal, we'd just stop and reposition. With my current IUD, the strings are trimmed to a few centimeters, and they feel much finer than those on the older device and curl up near my cervix. I can barely reach them and he hasn't mentioned having any issues with them at all.

Good luck! There's not really any way to know until you try it. The good news is, if it really isn't working for you (for whatever reason), you can just have it removed.
strand3d
Mar. 14th, 2017 01:24 am (UTC)
I've had two IUDs and my current nor my previous partner could feel the string. My string is actually quite long (as was the one on my previous IUD), and it tends to just curl up near my cervix and stay out of the way.
archangelbeth
Mar. 14th, 2017 02:29 am (UTC)
My spouse has made no comment about my strings -- and indeed, after a few months, they have softened a lot, so he probably wouldn't even notice them now. (If we had time alone and lack of stress. Stress is, like, the absolute most effective contraception 'round here. O:p ) Mine went and hid behind my cervix till everything softened up anyway, but because my uterus likes to flop over the end of my vaginal canal like a hat, I always have a high cervix.

(Right. Angle. Turn. In my uterus. I do not recommend this.)
farrowing
Mar. 15th, 2017 05:48 am (UTC)
my dr said to leave them long first to give them a chance to soften and curl up because while they can always be trimmed later, they can't be lengthened (she said sometimes the cut ones are more pokey/spiky since it's not really 'string' but more like fishing line).

thankfully mine softened and curled up so my bf has never felt them (and he's also well endowed and highly sensitive about that kinda thing, aka would have complained if he felt them lol). anyway, my copper iud has been blessing and hasn't caused any issues with sex that i know of.
cork118
Mar. 17th, 2017 05:06 pm (UTC)
Sorry if I'm late to the party, but I think you'll be fine! When I got my first IUD my boyfriend at the time was hung like a horse and he never felt a thing. Good luck!
cork118
Mar. 17th, 2017 05:08 pm (UTC)
I second what others said about having the doctor keep them long. You can always have them shortened, but you can't get them lengthened, you know?
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