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Donating eggs with IUD

Hey ladies!

I'm hoping to donate my eggs to women who are struggling with infertility. I had my first consultation yesterday. I was really worried about having to get my Mirena removed-- I'd be willing to do it, but wasn't particularly excited about it! But it turns out, I get to keep my Mirena in! The nurse said I'll need to take oral BC for a month or so to help regulate my cycle (since my periods are irregular), but otherwise it's not a problem. She also said that they've extracted eggs from woman with Mirenas, and that the procedures went just fine, and the success rate of turning eggs into pregnancies was the same.

So yay! I know this is a random thing to post about, but I just wanted to share this experience with you. If you're considering egg donation and you have an IUD, there's a good chance you can still do it!

(And if anyone has any experiences with egg donation, I'd love to hear them. I'm also willing to answer any questions about the process as best as I can!)

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scarletwildfire
Mar. 11th, 2010 04:24 pm (UTC)
what an interesting idea.

Is it considered surgery? I'm assuming they have to go through the cervix?
cork118
Mar. 11th, 2010 04:53 pm (UTC)
Yes, it is. They actually go through the vaginal wall, so they can have a straight shot at the ovaries. There's a good picture of it here if you're interested. According to my consulting nurse, there are fewer risks associated with this method than with going through the cervix and uterus, and it also has a much shorter recovery time.
scarletwildfire
Mar. 11th, 2010 05:41 pm (UTC)
I have no interest in children and I have often only half-jokingly told friends that I would gladly donate my uterus for transplant. This sound like a real-world way to help the cause.

It's just a shame that I couldn't do either without seriously risking my own health. :(

Kudos to you for helping out the people that want children but have problems!
cork118
Mar. 11th, 2010 05:44 pm (UTC)
Haha, my joke is that all my babies will be secondhand for the foreseeable future. :)

Thanks! I'll be sure to keep the community posted as I continue through the process.
themachinestops
Mar. 11th, 2010 04:34 pm (UTC)
Kinda gauche question but, are you getting paid?

Are you worried about early menopause because of having fewer eggs? Some sites I read (when I was considering selling eggs) considered it a possibility, while others said that menopause is not speeded up at any noticeable rate.

Will you have to take any drugs aside from oral BC? (This is what led me not to do it, I read that I'd have to take big doses of hormones, leading to depression/weight gain/funtiems in the short term, increased risk of cancer in the far term.)
cork118
Mar. 11th, 2010 04:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, I'd be paid $4,000 per donation, and I can donate up to six times. I don't think that's gauche at all-- it's one of the main reasons I'm donating, so no worries!

The ovaries of a fertile person contain thousands of eggs, which is many, many more than we could ever possibly use in a lifetime. I'm not worried about them taking 15 to 30 of the extras. :)

Yes. I have to give myself three different types of injections at different points throughout my cycle. The first is lupron, which essentially stops my pituitary gland from producing hormones. The next two are a follicle stimulating hormone to cause several eggs to mature at once, and then a single injection of human chorionic gonadotropin, which triggers ovulation.

From what my consulting nurse told me yesterday, the risks of cancer associated with being an egg donor are very very low, since you only undergo hormonal treatment for three weeks. Egg donation has advanced a LOT in recent years-- it used to be a process that required months of injections, now it takes a few weeks. Plus, the hormones and drugs have been refined so that side effects are usually minimal. She said I can expect premenstrual or menopausal-like side effects (bloating, cramping, increased emotionality, irritability, so on) during the injection phase, but that those symptoms usually go away within a month or less of completing donation.
footballgirrl
Mar. 11th, 2010 06:24 pm (UTC)
wow, thats really interesting.

The money sounds amazing (and I could use it! trust me!) but i think i'd be weirded out about having a biological child (children) running around somewhere. i know some sperm donor children ask to be reunited with the donor, do u think u'd be open to that?

the whole thing fascinates me.. i wouldn't donate, but if i ever need an egg I'm coming to u!! I'm 34 and we havent started trying for a baby yet, so u never know!! :-P
cork118
Mar. 11th, 2010 06:36 pm (UTC)
Technically, the child is genetically mine, but biologically the recipient mother's. It's a distinction I just learned about yesterday, it fascinated the hell out of me!

Before any procedure, I'll sign paperwork giving up any and all rights to the genetic material they harvest. The particular agency I'm working with does not give donor contact information to recipient parents or any children they conceive. But according to the nurse consult, it IS possible that I could be contacted one day, especially since recipient parents will know my age, career, and see a few pictures of my face. With the Internet being all crazy, it's technically possible that someone could contact me one day.

I don't know for sure how I feel about it, but I think I'd be open to meeting with parents or the child/ren. I mean, if the roles were reversed, I'd want to meet my genetic mother, if only to ask about weird quirks we might share! :)

I'm ok with the idea of a child that has half of my genetics running around. I work with a lot of kids and families that are a part of the foster care system, so I see proof every day that parenthood is so, so much more than genetics. I'll probably be really interested in babies and children who are the same age as whatever children result from my eggs, though! :)
footballgirrl
Mar. 11th, 2010 09:31 pm (UTC)
That is so fascinating !!

And you are totally right.. parenting is much more than genetics, or biology is a lot of cases. Do they have something where you can provide any medical history that the person resulting from the donation could use later on? like a history of cancer, etc.
y -. I'd want to meet my genetic mother too...i'd be so curious. And I think i'd want to meet my genetic child even more!!

The only thing that worries me a little about those things are people meeting and having kids with say, their brother or sister. I know its probably 0.00000001% of a chance, but it still pops in my head whenever I hear about these things.

Please keep us updated! I know this is an egg donor site, but i'd love to know how everything goes.
cork118
Mar. 12th, 2010 04:13 am (UTC)
Yes, before I was accepted as a donor I had to answer extensive questions about my medical history, including questions about my extended family. I felt like I'd never be done with all the surveys and questionnaires!

You're right, it's impossible to control if the genetic brothers or sisters would ever meet. What I can say, though, is that my particular agency does what the can to reduce the chances. Let's say two sets of parents from the same small town come in. If the first selects me as a donor, my agency will pull my profile so that it is unavailable to the second family. They try to consider (as much as possible) the chances that the children or families will interact.

I'll be sure to keep you guys posted!
fireaphid
Mar. 11th, 2010 07:05 pm (UTC)
I'm sort of surprised anyone with an IUD would volunteer for it, since I was under the impression that one had to abstain from sex for a long time along with the injections. I go to a big university, and there are always ads in our school paper offering about 10 times what you've quoted for egg donation based on IQ. The reputation they've gotten is that it does not compensate for the emotional and physical side-effects of egg donation, and there have been a number of very angry editorials in the paper about how it's unethical to continue running the ads when the agency has caused so much harm to the student body. But, it's quite different if you're doing it because you genuinely want to donate your eggs as opposed to just getting money to pay for a year or two of college.
cork118
Mar. 11th, 2010 09:21 pm (UTC)
Because I have an IUD, abstaining from sex isn't much of a problem. I'm not sure how effective the IUD is under the hyper-fertile circumstances created by the IVF, though. I'm not sexually active right now anyway though, so it's not a big deal. If I become sexually active, my nurse practitioner advises me to use condoms as a backup method while undergoing injections.

I'm not aware of any reputable places that will pay donors $40,000 per donation. National average is only $4000, so that much money would make me suspicious from the outset.

My understanding of the side effects is that they are relatively minor when following the procedures my agency uses. According to the nurse I spoke with, most women who donate once with the agency are willing to donate again, and the reason most commonly cited for not wanting to donate multiple times is changes in financial or occupational status.

Honestly? I mostly want to donate to make money. The altruistic side of me feels good about giving couples a choice in how to create their families, but the economical side of me feels really good about a year's worth of rent money. I have a LOT of student loans, and because I'm going to be working as a mental health counselor, I won't be making much yearly. $4000 will help out a LOT.
fireaphid
Mar. 11th, 2010 10:44 pm (UTC)
The ads in our school paper were from specific couples looking for "genius egg donors" and similar garbage, but they were for real and really did pay $30,000+ to the girls who met their standards. The moral issues are completely separate, and that's obviously totally your decision that no one else should try to influence. I just think it's shady that the agencies and individuals seeking egg donations use money to buy people's ethics to their side. Financial hardship is probably temporary, but donating your eggs is quite permanent, so make sure you decide on something you can live with for the rest of your life!
cork118
Mar. 12th, 2010 04:40 am (UTC)
I'm of a different opinion, I suppose. For me, it's like... I'm providing a service to people who need it, and I'm assuming a certain amount of risk to provide it. The compensation I'm getting is in part due to that risk, as well as the time I'm taking out of my life to provide it. There's no question of buying my ethics. I have no ethical qualms about this at all. I get that it's different for other people, though.

Financial hardship is temporary, but my student loans will last for the next 30 years unless I make a lot of extra money. :)

I don't know anything about private donors, so that's a whole different can of worms.
hearts_of_hope
Mar. 12th, 2010 07:40 pm (UTC)
I know this is a really obvious tip, but please do your research. I go to a big university school too, and I've seen the ads and was intrigued by the money. A day later, I was reading a LJ community (I think it was poor_skills) and someone asked about egg donation. Women were sharing these horror stories that kept me from ever considering it again.

I just felt like I should say something about that. Good luck with everything!
cork118
Mar. 14th, 2010 12:25 am (UTC)
I appreciate the concern. I've done several weeks worth of research, so I'm confident that I'm making the right choice for myself. Thanks, though. :)
untouchablejodz
Mar. 12th, 2010 06:35 am (UTC)
i dont want to put a dampener on your mission as i think it's great and worth while But do you plan on having any children yourself?

I only ask this and urge you to google yourself as I have read a LOT about the surgery causing scarring on your own Fallopian tubes and ovaries which later in life can result in you having trouble to conceive if that is an option you chose to partake in.

Im in Aust, and i've had my quota of children (one is more then enough!) and would be more then happy to hand my eggs over (seeing as scaring wouldnt be an issue for me) but as far as i am aware we are unable to... Surrogate mothers have only just been given the "ok" in some (not all) states...

cork118
Mar. 12th, 2010 06:38 am (UTC)
I can't find any scientific sources that show a link between donating eggs and later infertility, trouble conceiving, or difficulty carrying pregnancies to term. If you have some for me, that'd be great!

So far as I know, donating eggs is legal all over the US. Surrogacy is something totally different.
untouchablejodz
Mar. 12th, 2010 10:05 am (UTC)
Oh yeah completely agree about the 2 being different it was just an explanation of where we are at as a Nation (australia)..

Though i do stand corrected, since I was last looking into it, i have since found that you can now donate eggs in my state, though unsure about other states (however it is only $200 rather then $2000 so the emphasis is on good will?)

I have the hand outs i was given by the fertility clinic (this was when they were protesting against it hence why the "negative" information was freely available.) if i can source them down (they must still be here somewhere) ill give you the reference to the research they were claiming, though that might take me a few days I'm swamped with uni work at the mo!

Regardless i think what you are doing is fantastic!
cork118
Mar. 12th, 2010 04:02 pm (UTC)
Oooh, I thought you meant Aust as in... Austin, Texas. LOL!

Any information you have time to give would be appreciated. I understand being swamped with school work though, so no worries!
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cork118
Mar. 22nd, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)
Thanks, and no problem!

If you have the time, would you mind sharing a bit about what your friend went through? Did she regret it, or was she happy with her decision? Feel free to message me if you'd prefer!
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cork118
Mar. 22nd, 2010 05:35 pm (UTC)
That'd be awesome, thanks so much!!
Athena Marie
Feb. 26th, 2013 09:39 pm (UTC)
what company did you use? i want to donate but i have an IUD
cork118
Mar. 1st, 2013 02:32 pm (UTC)
Do a search for "egg donation" plus your city and you should find some local hits.

I did have to remove my Mirena the second time I donated eggs, so bear in mind that keeping your IUD may or may not be possible.
suz_07
Aug. 7th, 2013 10:35 am (UTC)
Hi,

I'm working with a couple I know as a known donor. This gives us (and especially me) more power in the decision making process. I love my Mirena. Seriously I would buy it jewelry if I could. I've been without a period for a year now and I'd like to return to normal as soon as I can. Can you share your experience with bleeding, cramping, etc after retrieval? And what was the name of the fertility clinic you used? A lot that we have talked to have said to remove my iud completely. Thankfully, my recipient couple is willing to do some extra work in a search to see if it's possible for me to keep my little mirena a miracle. Maybe we can find one that has a similar take on keeping the iud. ....

Thanks!!
cork118
Sep. 6th, 2013 05:12 pm (UTC)
Sorry it took a while to respond to this!

I ended up donating eggs twice, to two different recipients, each time as an anonymous donor. I kept my IUD during my first donation cycle and had it removed for the second. My contact at the fertility clinic said that clinic policy changed between my first and second donation cycles.

I didn't have any cramping or bleeding after egg retrieval! I guess maybe I had a little cramping for a day or two but so minimal that it could have just been due to my body changing back to normal after stopping the hormone injections. I didn't have any bleeding at all.

I worked with the Reproductive Health and Fertility Clinic in Peoria, IL for what it's worth.

If you have any other questions feel free to email me at cork.118@gmail.com (just remove the dot between cork and 118)!
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