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IUD poking penis. Is this normal?

I got my Paraguard inserted 09/12/09, so I've had it for over 4 months now. Recently my FH has noticed a little bit of poking when he's on top. I don't know if it's something to worry about because we don't usually have sex in this position, so I'm not even sure if it's new. And we weren't having a whole lot of sex Sep-Dec, so again... it could have been there all along and we wouldn't have necessarily noticed. He says he doesn't notice it when I'm on top or on my side. I don't feel anything (except good stuff) even when he's on top.

I know people say that it takes time for the strings to soften, but how much time? Is it possible my strings just aren't softened yet? My periods have been normal and there's no pain or cramping. Does this sound like a normal side effect or should I make an appt to see a doc and make sure it's not expelling? How common is this poking, and is it something that could last for the lifetime of the IUD?

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wibble42
Jan. 23rd, 2010 07:15 pm (UTC)
I doubt that you're expelling if you haven't noticed any unusual bleeding/cramping. Double-check your strings (not for length, but if you can feel anything unusual protruding from your cervix) - if the IUD has expelled enough for him to notice, you'd definitely feel it with a finger. If your fingers are too short, get your man to check. If neither of you can reach it, don't panic, try again in a few hours - people's cervixes move during the day. Mine's always lower in the evening, but I doubt that's the same for everyone.

It's more likely strings in an odd position if he can only feel it in certain positions. You can try tucking your strings up behind your cervix - that might get them out of the way.
leirda
Jan. 23rd, 2010 07:21 pm (UTC)
I've had mine in for about 5 months and every now and then my BF feels the strings before they disappear. But they tend to appear at random, hahaha.

As to my understanding, this is normal. And I think I've heard of some women who can still feel them for a long time after insertion, and of some that soften up right after insertion. So I wouldn't worry. Perhaps another response can tell you how to tuck them around your cervix.

The way my BF puts it is, "Oo, the strings just popped in to say, 'Hi! I'm still here! Have fun!'"
desolatebeauty
Jan. 24th, 2010 04:29 am (UTC)
I haven't had my IUD for quire as long as you have (I got it inserted in December) but I've definitely had the poking problem during sex and I'm fairly sure that I'm not expelling. From what I've read on here and other places poking can be a normal occurrence, especially depending on the position. Just thought it might give you a little reassurance :)
sightlessunless
Jan. 24th, 2010 04:33 pm (UTC)
This has been said a lot on other posts, but the strings don't actually soften. They feel "softer" because they get covered with cervical mucus and whatnot, but if you were to take it out and wash it off, it would still feel the same (like fishing line). The vagina is (generally) acidic, but not acidic enough to erode the plastic strings.

If your strings are short, it could just be them poking him. If they're longer, you should be able to push them up and sort of wrap them around your cervix so they're out of the way. There was a post recently about how to do this (in the past week or two).

Hope that helps!
footballgirrl
Jan. 24th, 2010 05:54 pm (UTC)
Theres absolutely no reason to think u are expelling just cuz your boyfriend can feel some poking.

My boyfriend felt the same thing every once in a while at the beginning, but he said it was no big deal. It didnt "hurt", it was just a but of poking. And nothing he was going to make an issue out of - especially seeing as it took me so long to find a birth control that I actually loved and that didnt make me feel like a crazy person. (i have a copper IUD).

I've had mine almost a year and in the past 8 months he hasnt even mentioned a word about poking. As long as your boyfriend isnt in pain, id probably tell him to suck it up - after a little bit of time it wont even be an issue.
elkay
Jan. 25th, 2010 09:52 am (UTC)
IATWC!

The other day I asked my boyfriend of about 1.5 years if he ever felt anything odd that could be my IUD during sex, just out of curiosity. He said that sometimes he can sense something but that it's not a big deal and it doesn't really hurt and so he never mentioned it.

I don't think he ever would have complained and I never would have known if I hadn't asked!
footballgirrl
Jan. 25th, 2010 09:42 pm (UTC)
ya, i think most guys (the good guys anyway) are just so happy we found something we love that we can ALL trust, that they wont complain. And really, it isnt that big of a deal if they feel a poke now and then - its not like theres some ball of barbed wire up there or something.
danasonia
Jan. 26th, 2010 03:34 am (UTC)
Had my IUD 8 years and my husband occasionally gets a poke. We just stop and I tuck the string up around my cervix again.
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